Is your family under attack?
Table of Contents:
A. Most have heard about eggflation
B. Have they heard about Visitflation?
II. Explanation of the concept of Parental Alienation
A. The problem of Parental Alienation and how it affects families during and after a divorce
III. Double Blind Systemic Wedges, or DBSWs
A. The BlindAlientVisitflation (BAV) Policy
IV. From Survival to thrival: Adaptive kids who become Lawstars
A. What if relief was in sight for those who desperately need it to survive but they didn't know where to look?
A. True crime on trial: Visitflation
B. The importance of readdressing the chronic issues yourself
A community organization is joining forces to assist parents amid and following a high-conflict divorce or parental separation who are facing challenges with Visitflation, Parental Alienation, and Blind Systemic Wedges.
Think of it like when you and your friends have a disagreement about how to take care of your pet. It can become complicated and overwhelming, but with the help of this community organization, the solution can be easier to find and make everyone happy, including your pet.
CLU has published a new blog about protecting families during high-conflict divorce or separation. The blog, "The BAV Policy: How to Protect Yourself and Your Children," provides useful tips and information on how to manage the rising cost of legal services and the growing gap between average people and high-priced lawyers. You can also learn about ways people are advocating for relief from the anti-competitive behavior in certain industries and understand the 'Prolific Blind Alien Visitflation (BAV) Pay Gap Theory' and its impact.
Don't let Visitflation, Parental Alienation, and Blind Systemic Wedges take control of your life. Protect yourself and your children by reading the latest blog from CLU and taking charge of your family's future.
Most have heard about eggflation
In 2022, egg prices rose significantly at a rate of 60% over the past year due to the ongoing avian influenza epidemic in the U.S. which has resulted in the loss of 43 million egg-laying hens. This shortage of eggs during the holiday season when demand is high, resulted in several consecutive weeks of record-high egg prices. However, costs are expected to decrease in the coming weeks as egg-laying flocks are restored. Additionally, other food items such as margarine and butter have also seen large price increases. Overall, food inflation has risen by 10.4%.
As we've seen, food prices have risen significantly over the last year. But there's another trend that's starting to cause concern for many families. It's called Visitflation, and it's having a devastating impact on low-income families trying to secure visitations during and after a divorce. This phenomenon is characterized by the rising costs of legal services and a widening gap between expensive lawyers and what the average person earns.
Have they heard about Visitflation?
We've all seen similar heart-wrenching news stories like these. In 2021 the ABC 17 news story highlights Visitflation in a legal battle between a mother, Cortney Nolan, and her ex-husband about custody of their children. Nolan claims that she was ordered to see a licensed psychologist, Dr. James Reid, for a $50,000 mental assessment during the custody battle (2021).
It is difficult to assess how many innocent victims are impacted by Visitflation, as it can take many forms and may not always be reported or recognized. However, studies and news stories have highlighted the problem and its impact on low-income families and individuals who may not have the resources or knowledge to navigate the legal and financial aspects of their circumstances.
Judge Judy Scheindlin, a former family court judge, is calling for family courts to be open to the press in order to bring transparency and accountability to the system. In some cases, even the deaths of children are being covered up by the system. She believes that cameras in the courtroom will open up the family courts so that people can see the kind of justice being delivered by this expensive court system.
Thomas Doheny, 51, was found dead in his jail cell on Friday, November 17, 2017, facing immense child support payments which he could no longer afford according to Dempsey, 2019. He had been held at the jail since November 1, 2017, when he was taken into custody in contempt of court. He was in court dealing with a divorce filed against him in 2014. The child support payments exceeded $7,700 and maintenance payments were $11,500 monthly for 16 years. According to the source, Judge Michael Coppedge, who presided over the case, failed to consider the information provided by Doheny and made it impossible for him to afford child support payments.
As we delve deeper into the issue of Visitflation, the harsh reality becomes all too clear. Families are being left feeling helpless and hopeless, facing the devastating consequences of unregulated systemic Visitflation. It's a tragedy that low-income families are struggling to access representation and are falling victim to exorbitant attorney fees. But it's not just financial struggles that are taking a toll on families, as we see from the devastating example of a young Robinhood app partner named Alexander Kearns taking his own life due to a wrongful negative balance similar to Visitfltion.
The note he left behind raises a haunting question, "How was a 20-year-old with no income able to get assigned almost a million dollars worth of leverage?" It's impossible to fully understand the complex factors that lead to suicide, but it's clear that financial inflation played a role in this tragic loss of life. We must take action and seek peer remedy to end this form of Visitflation and protect families from its devastating effects.
Robinhood is a stock trading app that allows users to buy and sell stocks and other securities using their mobile devices or personal computers. It is popular among younger investors and those with limited funds because it offers commission-free trading and a user-friendly interface.
The issue mentioned in the passage is that the app displayed a negative $730,000 cash balance in red, but it may not have represented an actual loss of funds. Instead, it may have been a temporary balance until the stocks underlying his assigned options actually settled into his account. This can be confusing for users and may have led to the user's misinterpretation of the negative balance as an actual loss of funds.
In Missouri, during the first quarter of 2021, about 5,500 independent parents have filed a dissolution of marriage case with children involved. This amounts to roughly 22,000 people per year. 80% of these cases involve either unrepresented or underrepresented parents, who have to navigate complex systems such as paywalls, digital e-filings, and virtual hearings. This can lead to pain and suffering for these parents, as they struggle to understand the system and get their voices heard. This disparity in legal representation can also impact children and families negatively, causing emotional and financial challenges. Research has shown that when one parent has more resources and representation in court, they are less inclined to share or play fairly. Studies have also found that parents without representation often feel pained and unsupported, as they struggle to make their voices heard in the legal system.
According to a recent report, legal services have experienced an average inflation rate of 3.92% per year between 1986 and 2022. This means that the prices for legal services have increased by 299.03% during this time period. This significant rate of change indicates a significant inflation in the cost of legal services. To put this in perspective, if you were to purchase legal services for $10,000 in the year 1986, it would cost you $39,902.98 in 2022 for an equivalent purchase. This is an important issue that may affect many individuals and businesses who rely on these services
According to data, we have seen a less than 1.4 percent increase in wages and salaries over this period of time. To put this into perspective, if someone was earning $10,000 in 1986, they would be earning only $12,240 in today's dollars. This indicates a slow growth in wages and salaries and raises concerns about the economic well-being of working individuals.
As we've seen, the cost of legal services has seen significant inflation in recent years, rising nearly 300% over the past 36 years. But while the financial burden of legal proceedings may be on the rise, questionable, risky or increaingly out of reach for most, there is another, equally troubling issue that affects families across the country: Parental Alienation. This phenomenon, in which one parent actively works to turn a child against the other parent, can have devastating effects on families and the children already over taxed in the middle. Let's take a closer look at this heartbreaking issue.
The Cost of Connection
A mom, once so naive,
Holds on to what she believes,
That her family's what really counts,
But with cash, relationships bounce.
$50,000 to $1,000,000,
The cost to keep a healthy connection,
But what happens when that's not enough,
When the state's got all the power and stuff?
Visitflation, a term too real,
The mountain that kids face uphill,
Regulated by us, the voters,
But we turn our backs, they suffer.
What's next, we ask, with teary eyes,
Will we ignore the press's cries?
We don't regulate, we don't control,
And suffer the consequences as a whole.
Explanation of the concept of Parental Alienation
Parental Alienation, or PA as it's commonly called, is a phenomenon where one parent, often times in the midst of a custody dispute, actively works to turn their child or children against the other parent. Sadly, it's like a drug dealer attempting to manipulate a child into going against the efforts of the police by convincing them to sell drugs on the streets. PA can take the form of badmouthing the other parent, limiting contact with them, or even outright lying to the child about the other parent.
The effects of parental alienation can be devastating for the child and the targeted parent. Children who are exposed to parental alienation may suffer from emotional distress, behavioral problems, and even mental health issues. Additionally, the targeted parent may experience feelings of loss, sadness, and powerlessness.
It's important to note that parental alienation can occur in any type of family structure, whether the parents are divorced, never married, or even still together. It is not limited to any specific race, religion, or socioeconomic group.
It's crucial that we, as a society, become aware of this issue and take steps to address it. This includes educating ourselves and others about the signs of parental alienation, and supporting those who are affected by it. We must also work towards creating a legal system that is equipped to handle cases of parental alienation and to protect the best interests of the child.
CLU urges you to stay informed and to take action in any way you can to help combat this serious problem from more the one perspective.
The problem of Parental Alienation and how it affects families during and after a divorce
PA can happen in various ways, such as by making negative comments about the other parent, withholding affection, or preventing the child from spending time with the other parent.
The problem of parental alienation is that it can have a severe impact on the emotional and psychological well-being of the child, as well as the relationship between the child and the alienated parent. Children who are exposed to parental alienation may develop feelings of anger, guilt, or confusion, which can lead to emotional and behavioral problems later on in life.
During a divorce, parental alienation can also make the process more difficult and stressful, as it can create conflict between the parents and prolong the legal proceedings. In some cases, it can even lead to one parent being denied custody or visitation rights.
After a divorce, parental alienation can continue to affect the child and the alienated parent, potentially causing long-term emotional damage to both. It is important for parents to understand the negative impact of parental alienation and to take steps to prevent it from happening. This may include seeking the help of a therapist or counselor, attending parent education classes, or working with a mediator or parenting coordinator to develop a co-parenting plan.
As the topic of parental alienation has shown us, the effects of a divorce can be far-reaching and damaging to families. But what happens when the very system meant to help these families is the cause of the problem? This is where the concept of Double Blind Systemic Wedges, or DBSWs, comes into play. DBSWs are invisible barriers that exist within our legal and social systems, and they can have a profound impact on marginalized groups. As we delve deeper into this topic, we'll explore the ways in which DBSWs perpetuate inequality and the steps we can take to break down these barriers and create a more just society.
A Child's Betrayal
A sad girl, so young and small,
Groomed by one parent, to the other's downfall,
After a separation, her world turned upside down,
As the adults in her life start to act like clowns.
Grandparents too, join the manipulative game,
Turning the child against the other's name,
Using her love as a weapon to wield,
Leaving her to navigate a terrible battlefield.
What must it feel like, to be used in such a way?
To have your love turned against you every day,
To feel like you're caught in the middle of a war,
Wondering what you're fighting for.
Thankfully, there are those who do care,
CLU, who won't turn their backs and stare,
They work to prevent this gloom and doom,
Repairing broken bonds before they're consumed.
It's never too late to take a stand,
And offer a child a helping hand,
So let's work to end this cycle of despair,
And show these children that we truly care.
Double Blind Systemic Wedges, or DBSWs
Double Blind Systemic Wedges (DBSWs) is a phenomenon where one party in a two-party contract, court proceeding, or legal action is effectively turned against the other party. DBSWs are like big walls that make it impossible for families to understand and navigate the legal system. Just like how a wedge is something that can split things apart, these DBSWs can make it hard for families to stay together and make good decisions during tough times like divorce. It's like a big puzzle that's always missing and hard to figure out. Sometimes, people in power make it even harder to solve intentionally or unintentionally.
Why did the double blind wedges go into the forest?
To chop each other down
and see if it would make a sound
or if St Louis grass would come back to life!
These wedges refer to the systemic biases and barriers that make it difficult for families to navigate the legal system. These biases can include things like a lack of understanding of cultural norms, a lack of resources for low-income families, and a lack of representation for marginalized groups. These wedges can have a significant impact on the outcome of a legal case and can lead to unfair and unjust results for the families involved. DBSWs happen legally, socially, academically, and even financially.
The University of Chicago Press discusses the concept of "oppressive double binds," which are double binds that exist as a result of oppression. These are situations where no matter what you do, you're stuck because of oppressive structures. The author explains that these double binds can limit your ability to make choices and can hurt you, even if you're trying to resist oppression. They give examples of double binds in philosophy and politics. The purpose of the article is to understand how these double binds work and how they impact people who are trapped in them.
Besides indirect academic and psychology studies, DBSWs also directly describe several barriers and biases that make it difficult for families to navigate life after a divorce. These wedges, like those in PA, can affect families in many systemic ways, including socially, emotionally, academically, and financially.
DBSWs can make it so that one parent is seen as the good one and the other is seen as the bad one. This can lead to not being able to spend as much time with their child and having to do what the good parent wants. It can make the child feel like they have to choose between their parents, just like a fish out of water feels different from a fish in water.
Socially, a DBSW can occur when one parent is deemed the "good" parent and the other is seen as the "bad" parent. This can lead to alienation, where the "bad" or "nocustodial" parent is not allowed to spend as much time with their child as they would like, and is often subject to the "good" or "custodial" wishes no matter what. It can lead to social isolation, academic isolation, extra corricular isolation, and judicial isolation, just like several fish out of water feels different from several fish in water. All spaces where the child feels like they have to choose between their "bad" or "living" parents.
Internally, DBSW can occur when a child feels like they have to take sides between their parents. This can lead to feelings of guilt, anger, and confusion. It can also lead to feelings of abandonment, especially if the child feels like one parent is not there for them.
Alienations are almost mandated internally when one parent is seen as the "good" parent and the other is seen as the "bad" parent. This can lead to chronic alienation, where the "bad" parent is not allowed to spend any time with their child. It can also lead to chronic social isolation, where the child feels like they have to choose between their isolated feelings and socializing.
It appears that some professions are being made more profitable, and people's lives are already predetermined as to what they can or cannot do before they are born.
The BlindAlienVisitflation (BAV) policy
Many concerned citizens have expressed deeply troubled feelings by their reports of "Quadruple Blind Systemic Wedges," or BAV mandate.
As an all-natural peer group, we don't have access to individual social experiences, but in general, those who've experienced BAV or "Quadruple Blind Systemic Wedges" may express feelings of frustration, anger, and helplessness as they feel their lives have been impacted negatively due to this phenomenon. They may feel like they're being caught in a never-ending game of chance, similar to the childhood game "Spin the Tail on the Donkey," where they are constantly at a disadvantage and the outcome is uncertain. These individuals may speak out against the perceived opponent, or system and advocate for change to protect themselves and their families from the devastating effects of BAV.
It seems like an impossible situation for parents to be caught in, where they are facing revolving alienation episodes just for trying to co-parent well. Or expensive quadruple-blind systemic experiences when they can't co-parent.
The result of this quadruple blind, they say, is a painful and devastating experience for all involved, especially the children. They hope but know that our government and the legal system can't find a way to provide support and representation for these families, so people say their grief lingers forever.
Financially, a DBSW between parents can also occur when future finances do not align with past agreements due to changed circumstances, leading to difficulties in providing for the child and potentially impacting their future financial stability.
Imagine you and your friend made a deal to take care of your pet together. You both agreed to split the cost of food and toys for the pet. However, as time goes by, your friends can no longer take care of the pet. Now, you have to take care of the pet all by yourself and pay for everything by yourself. This is like the Double Blind Systemic Wedge that some people experience with their money and taking care of their children. Just like taking care of a pet became more expensive for you, it can become more expensive for people to take care of their children when circumstances change.
Now let's say you and your friend have a pet together and you both agreed to take turns feeding it every day. But one day, your friend's family moves away and they can't co-parent the pet anymore. So now, you and your friend have to go to a special place called a court to talk to a judge about who will feed the pet and how it will be done in the future. But because your friend is far away, they can't be there to talk to the judge, and they can't tell the judge what they want. This is like a "quadruple blind" situation facts because they can't see your life in real-time, and the judge can't understand how to make future facts caring for the pet match up with past facts. This can make it very difficult for the judge to make a fair and good decision about who will continue feeding the pet and how it will be done in a new agreement or court order.
It is important to remember that double and quadruple blinds can happen to any family and that it is possible to navigate these challenges with the help of a therapist or counselor. It is also important to remember that the child's well-being should be the top priority in any divorce or custody agreement.
In a worst-case scenario, Visitflation policy or mandate can result in extreme financial burden on parents who are going through high conflict divorce or blended family impasses. It can cause a significant increase in the cost of visiting with their children, making it difficult or even impossible for them to spend time with their children. This can lead to feelings of frustration and sadness for the parents and harm to the relationship with their children. It can also put additional stress on the children who may feel torn between their parents. Furthermore, if the parents are unable to afford the increased cost, they may not be able to see their children at all, causing a rift in their relationship and potentially long-lasting damage. This can harm the mental and emotional well-being of both the parents and children involved.
It is truly heart-wrenching to think of the innocent children and families who are caught in the grip of the blind circumstances. The challenges they face in terms of raising their kids, maintaining relationships, and even their overall well-being can be incredibly difficult. It is especially devastating for those with special needs, who may struggle even more to stay connected and get the support they need following a high-conflict legal separation. The thought of any child going through such a traumatic experience is enough to bring tears to one's eyes. It is truly a call to action for society to do better for these families.
As the story of DBSWs unfolds, we are introduced to another aspect of the challenges faced by families navigating life after divorce: BlindAlienVisitflation. This term refers to the small but significant number of innocent people who are impacted by visitations that are inflationary, parental alienation, and various DBSWs. These individuals often find themselves caught in the middle, struggling to make sense of the complex and ever-changing landscape of post-divorce life. But as we delve deeper into the experiences of those affected by BlindAlienVisitflation, we begin to see the human cost of these systemic biases and barriers and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity. So read on, and let's explore the impact of BlindAlienVisitflation on those caught in its grip.
Explanation of sufferages
As we delve deeper into the complexities of divorce, we come across a term that encapsulates the devastating effects that can be inflicted upon innocent parties caught in the crosshairs: BlindAlienVisitflation. This term refers to a small number of individuals who are impacted by a combination of factors, including Visitflation, PA, and various DBSWs. These individuals are often caught in a web of legal and emotional turmoil that can have long-lasting and compacting consequences on their social, emotional, and financial well-being. The stories of these individuals serve as a harsh reminder of the need for compassion and understanding in navigating the treacherous waters of divorce.
BlindAlienVisitflation refers to the systemic biases and barriers that make it difficult for families to navigate life after a divorce. These biases and barriers can have a significant impact on the social, emotional, academic, and financial well-being of both parents and children.
For example, let's take the case of Jane, a single mother who was recently divorced. Despite having a joint custody agreement with her ex-husband, Jane has struggled to maintain regular visitations with her children due to a combination of factors, including her ex-husband's refusal to comply with the agreement and court delays. As a result, Jane has been forced to spend more money on legal fees and has experienced emotional distress as a result of being separated from her children.
This is just one example of the many innocent people who are being impacted by BlindAlienVisitflation. It is a serious issue that must be addressed typically by lawmakers and the legal system to ensure that families can navigate life after a divorce without being subjected to unnecessary barriers and biases. However, because the number of individuals impacted by this issue is relatively small, it is not widely acknowledged or recognized in the political or social spheres. As a result, those affected have primarily had to rely on self-help strategies to cope with its effects.
In conclusion, BlindAlienVisitflation is a serious issue that is impacting the well-being of families across the country. We must bring awareness to this issue and work together to find solutions that will help families navigate the often-complicated legal system.
It is difficult to define a specific person or data that is at the center of gravity of Visitflation, Parental Alienation, and limitless Double Blind Biased Systemic Wedges combined, as these issues can affect a wide range of individuals and families in various ways. However, some possible examples of individuals who may be particularly affected by these issues include low-income parents or caregivers who are struggling to secure visitations with their children during a divorce or custody battle, as well as children who are experiencing Parental Alienation and are being torn between the love and loyalty towards both parents. Additionally, these issues can also have a devastating impact on the mental and emotional well-being of these individuals and families and can cause long-term harm. Data that could be collected to better understand the extent of these issues would include research on the number of cases of Parental Alienation and Visitflation in the family court system and the impact on the children and parents involved, as well as data on the social and economic factors that contribute to these issues.
Quadruple Blind Systemic Wedges
Quadruple Blind Systemic Wedges,
Make life harder for those at the edges.
Legal cases, social divide,
Academic and financial ties,
All plagued by biases and disparities,
Unjust results for families everywhere.
Oppressive double binds at play,
In politics, philosophy, every day.
Choice limited by oppressive structures,
Hurtful impact for those who suffer.
Alienation, isolation, and confusion,
All outcomes of this systemic illusion.
Chronic alienation for some families,
No co-parenting, only legal formalities.
Expensive experiences and financial strains,
A difficult journey, full of pains.
Lives impacted, hope dwindling,
Quadruple Blind Systemic Wedges, never ending.
From Survival to thrival: Adaptive kids who become Lawstars
At CLU, we also uncover stories of children who have been able to adapt and even thrive in the face of these challenges, becoming successful in their careers and personal lives. These children are known as "Lawstars" and serve as an inspiration to others facing similar struggles.
Once, in a land not so far away, three local kids were dealing with the harsh realities of BAV as mandated policy. They were struggling with the emotional toll it was taking on their families, and they felt like they were stuck in a never-ending cycle of alienation and financial strain. But, little did they know, they were about to become Savvy Superheroes and break free from the grip of BlindAlienVisitflation!
The first kid, let's call him Timmy, was dealing with the financial stress of his parent's divorce. He was worried that he wouldn't be able to afford college, and he was feeling the weight of the world on his shoulders. But, Timmy was determined to break free from the grip of BlindAlienVisitflation. He started working hard in school and even took on a part-time job to save up for college. With his hard work and determination, Timmy was able to get a scholarship and attend his dream school.
The second kid, we'll call her Samantha, was dealing with alienation from her father. She was feeling lonely and isolated, and she didn't know how to fix it. But, Samantha was not one to give up easily. She reached out to a therapist, who helped her understand her feelings and how to communicate with her father. With the help of her therapist, Samantha was able to reconnect with her father and rebuild their relationship.
The third kid, we'll call him Alex, was dealing with the emotional toll of his parent's divorce. He was feeling angry and resentful, and he didn't know how to cope. But, Alex was a creative kid, and he channeled his emotions into writing. He wrote a play about his experiences with BlindAlienVisitflation, and it was a huge success! With the help of his writing, Alex was able to process his emotions and come to terms with his parent's divorce.
In the end, Timmy, Samantha, and Alex all broke free from the grip of BlindAlienVisitflation and became Savvy Superheroes in their own right. They all had different ways of coping, but they all found a way to thrive despite the challenges they faced. They proved that, with determination and a little bit of creativity, anyone can break free from the grip of BlindAlienVisitflation and become a winner!
What if relief was in sight for those who desperately