Freedom. What does that mean in your family? In some countries, the older generation practices pre-arranged marriages for their children. According to Wikipedia, they believe this practice protects family property, social ties, and many other things.
In America, the land of the free, we're different. When it comes to arranged legal bonds, we practice arranged divorces. That way, if a separation isn't painful enough to ruin our kids, then we have this heavy backup system of attritions to helps destroy them. Tongue in cheek, it's called family law and family court. Confusing gears that pinch our children and grandchildren who are already hurting out of their lives. Kind of like a torture Rack pulling bodies apart. Poor kids:(
Some children who have experienced systemic divorce say that it feels like a slap in the face. Like, "TAKE THAT if you think you have the right to survive a difficult time in your life!"
There's no easy answer to why we betroth things this way. Why divorce and legal separations have to be arranged like this. Maybe it is fun for some people? Maybe it's politics hating on us? Maybe we're bad people? But, given that it's Independence Day, let's take a moment to celebrate freedom.
Thank God we're blessed to be quasi-free. We're blessed to be able to vaccinate our children when it comes to the Covid-19 pandemic. We're blessed to have bicycle helmets to protect them from bike wrecks. We're blessed to have child safety seats to protect them from automobile wrecks. And we're blessed to have many constructive ways to strengthen their resiliency when it comes to life wrecks like our pre-arrange divorces.
Played smart, we really are blessed to have some trials in life. There are no easy answers when it comes to those trials in life. There are plenty of opportunities to either try and fail or try and succeed. Cheers to all your past and future successes!
Happy 4th of July for all of your safe trials! That's wonderful! Let's hope and pray that those are memorialized in the most meaningful ways!
It's great to share and remember those victories. No matter how small or how big they are. Like a blessed child who has a helmet on when he or she wrecks. That's a blessing. That's safety is earned. It's not a given. Danger is a given.
But sadly, statistics show that our crime rates, shootings in the streets, imprisonments, early teens pregnancies, behavioral problems of youth, etc, all reflect that America as a whole is the victim of systemic divorce. Showing the consequences of what's been arranged for all our kids without saying a word.
We don't just legally bind young couples to unity in Marriage anymore. Since the mid-1980s, we bind couples and their children to division in Divorce. According to the CDC, this effects nearly 1.1 million adults and 2.2 million children per year.
Sharing and praying for these burdens help too. Those are trials in life that many of us don't know how to get past. This Independence Day, it's important to remembers those who lost their lives and didn't make it through the fallout of a relational breakup.
When the recent condominium in Miami collapsed, heavy equipment was brought in, people tried to remove the debris, save lives, and figure out why it fell. That's kind of in our nature thanks to freedom. That's kind of like CLU. We don't have to wait for word from the mountain tops before we start helping people. Our heavy equipment is already removing debris, we're saving lives, and figuring out why families fall.
Turns out, children honoring their mother and father is one of the Ten Commandments. Commandments that are widely understood as moral imperatives by legal scholars, Jewish scholars, Catholic scholars, and Christians. The Book of Exodus describes the Ten Commandments as being spoken by God to Moses, inscribed on two stone tablets by the finger of God, or written on tablets by Moses.
"Honor your father and your mother so that you may live long in the land that God is giving you."
– Exodus 20:12 (NJB)
If more children children of divorce and parental separations had this freedom, the freedom to honor their moms and dads, then perhaps they'd be better prepared for the trials we throw at each other.
Traumatically, in our conventional Divorce and separation contracts, when a family falls, then it's impossible for children to effectively serve their mom and dad. They're nixed on paper. They fall short right out of the gate. Because children of divorce, deployment, and parental separations can't be in two places at once. That has trial within trial built in by law. Not to mention, these are already vulnerable children but deserve extra help becoming resilient.
In pending divorce litigations, more and more heavier debris is piled on each party until one side or the other caves. So, when CLU has stepped in to help children in those situations, then people have a clear path to help them honor their mothers and fathers.
Take our child safety files for example. Those are constructively inclusive between their moms and dads. Bondages to divorce can't do that. But creations in their free unity space can.
There's safety in clean data gathering. For those who have a predisposition to working on their marriage, even when the wheels of justice have already started turning, then CLU helps them through. Helps them and those virtuous connections remain alive.
There's safety in Constitutional Rights. For those who don't gel well with the principles of family court because they've been taught the words of their United States Constitutional Bill of Rights, and notice that there are several of those Rights missing, like no right to a jury of peers available, no right to bail, no right to counsel, no right to balanced, clean data from peers, etc., etc. then CLU is a national alternative.
There's safety for the ethical. For those who don't gel well with the principles of family law because they've been taught scientific law and engineering ethics, and also notice the difference, then CLU is a professional alternative.
There's safety in biology. Our biological instincts are very important for survival. For those who don't gel with divorce or separation because of a biological disposition, like Black Robe Hypertension or the "momma bear" phenomenon, then CLU is an ultra-safe biological alternative. Freeing your "wild side."
There's safety in being a Christian. For children who want to honor God, honor mom, and honor dad, now there's an elementary alternative.
There's safety from disparity, or social inequality. If you are predisposed to believing everyone is equal, haves an equal voice, and being equally subject to official reports, then CLU is a psychologically pinch-less alternative.
There's safety in open access. If you're predisposed to connecting, and not disconnected or disconnecting, then free CLU is right for you and yours of you need them.
There's the safety in transparency. With CLU, law means unity, or community knowledge, instead of division, or lack of community knowledge.
Now, if it's financial safety you and your family need, well, there's too much money already tied to denying access, lack of clarity, inequality, biological endangerment, etc.. Probably no one but conventional lawyers can help you there.
So, why pivot your children's future safely then?
Well, if two parties in family court or social separation can't agree or be coerced into an agreement on paper, then everyone on the public side will suffer. Because those fees will go up, work will be missed going to court, taxes pay for it all, you pay for it, emotions will be escalated, confusion will abound, children will be left in limbo, sometimes permanently, etc.
At CLU, pivoting our children, is freeing them.
Scientifically, those circumstances that arrange always evolve into toxic separations - "he" said "she" said. So CLU is a safety net of peers that has been shown to prevent bad fallout. Circumstances that escalate, until finally a stranger steps in and locks in an order around one of those positions. AFTER the family has fallen and added damage to itself. Locking kids in to that worse deal possible. Kind of like locking them into a reverse Commandment.
I'm sure CLU looks odd and weird to most people. But they still always ask us "How does CLU innovate things differently? Why do you guys always practice unity, especially when the world says kids have to be legally bound divided from their parents?" And we're like, "Duh..."
An adversarial court system is needed. And maybe conventional "family" law has its place. But when it comes to our next-generation Family Law 2.0, kids get freedom. They don't need to be penned in under the circumstances of "Be tied this way, or be tied that way." Between a rock and a hard spot when they're kids.
CLU is different because we don't stand for just that. Freeing kids. There's already too much of what's been arranged going on. It effects all of us. So we facilitate these young parents and their children being engaged to one another freely. That's what people have a hard time understanding. Then we here, "But you're not the state! Or, you're not this group or that group!." But anyone can truly pivot socially.
CLU is like those who know from experience that excessive child labor was a bad thing for kids. That automobiles without child safety seats were bad. That medication with childproof lids were bad, but were too poor to have a voice. CLU is like those who a clue. A clue that keeps on giving.
Children in bad circumstances, the most voiceless of all, don't need more expensive chest beating and third party policies. Like what's been arranged to "solve" all their problems during life wrecks like divorce. They just need simple, constructively professional connection keeping activities and family as policy. That's what they have been saying they love.
Much like groups who help children in the hospital who have cancer. That has to be freedom. An authentic sigh of relief. Nothing hurts worse than being isolated and alone with circumstances like that.
Children of divorce, even amicable divorces, have invisible, sometimes traumatic wounds. Unadulterated peers help them in ways only they can see. Constructive ways when everything in there hearts, minds and souls falls apart.
Everyone else tends to either excuse those invisible wounds or add to them. One on top of the other.
In this day and age of instant social media, most people are quick to pop off some kind of rude comment versus trying to relate to what other people are going through. That's the norm.
But children, say recovering from a drive-by shooting, don't need more pokes and prys on top of their pain. They need clean, ethical, unadulterated care like a few groups engage in.
"Because the only thing more painful than a parental separation for kids, is voicing that pain." - Anonymous
Everyone else's "solution" is to just pile on more and more heavy debris recklessly. But people are on to them. And to all those group's pre-arranged weighs.